A Lesson Everyone Needs to Hear!

I always thought of Ashton Kutcher as the class clown, can’t take him serious kind of guy, until I hard his speech from the 2013 Kids Choice Awards this past weekend. He speaks humbly about himself while providing insight to the younger generation of what he has learned and how it has shaped who he is today. He says there are three important things that he learned that have helped him along the way. These three things are opportunity, being sexy and living life.

He starts off by saying that “opportunity looks like hard work”. He describes the various jobs he has had throughout the years from carrying shingles for his dad, to washing dishes to making sandwiches. He said he never had a job that he was better than; he was always lucky to have a job. He believes that each job played a valuable role in teaching and preparing him for the next one. He never quit a job unless he had a new job- Opportunity is like work. What a concept to teach our children, opportunities don’t come to you without hard work!

Ashton than goes on to talk about “Being Sexy”, I know it doesn’t sound right that he is talking to kids about being sexy but just hear me out on this one. Ashton says that the sexiest thing in the world is “being really smart, generous and thoughtful”. He lectures that everything else is crap and tells the kids not to buy into it and don’t let anyone make you feel like less. The media is always portraying there version of sexy (skinny, in-shape, best clothes, best hair, blah blah blah), but kids need to realize that this is all on the outside and that the real sexy comes from who you are and how you treat people. Now that is a sexy everyone can be!

The final lesson he talks about is a lesson he learned while playing Steve Jobs in his upcoming film. He quotes Jobs in saying that “When you grow up, you are taught that the world is the way it is and that it is your job to live your life in that world and get an education, get a job, start a family, etc.  Life can be more than that by realizing one simple thing; everything around us that we call life was made up by people who were no smarter than you”. Another simple lesson for our children that it is up to them to change the world and to not just buy in to the world as it is.

Ashton closes the speech by telling the kids to go and build their life that other people live in, build a life don’t live one, find your opportunity and always be sexy!

Now this was definitely not the kind of speech I expected from Ashton Kutcher, of all people, but its one that someone that is considered a “role model” needs to promote.  Ashton is quickly stepping up to be a voice of the next generation and working to make our world a better place. Our society needs to reevaluate what opportunity, being sexy and building a life really means! These 3 lessons are lessons that we can teach our children every single day and start making the world a better place right now.

How do you plan on teaching your children about opportunity, being sexy and building a life.  How will they be AweMazing?

Here is the link to the speech so that you can share it with your kids!

Ashton Kutcher Speech

Oh How Things Change When You Become a Parent!

The other day while getting ready to go to dinner, I was putting my make up on and curling my hair when it occurred to me that I couldn’t remember the last time I put on full make-up and curled my hair. I had to laugh at myself as how things have changed since little peanut came into our lives.  For one, my new getting ready routine consists of moisturizer, mascara, lip-gloss and hair in a ponytail (only because peanut likes to yank my hair out). Prior to peanut I would have never considered this a complete look, but hey it’s all I have time for now and it works.  Staying on the topic of getting ready, I have become the fastest shower taker in town. I have reduced my long hot showers (ohhh that sounds AweMazing) down to just a few minutes.  Our going out to dinner routines has changed too. It used to be the trendy hot spot at the earliest 7pm and now it’s meeting up with the early birds at 5pm at the loudest and fastest restaurants we can find.  Before, I barely knew we had a park in the neighborhood, now I know every park in town and what it consists of and when the shade is covering the playground.  Now, our DVR has changed from TrueBlood and Always Sunny in Philadelphia reruns to Yo Gabba Gabba and Dora.  Finally, I have learned that I can do just about everything from cleaning to folding laundry to opening doors and grocery shopping (to name a few) with just one hand.  Besides the obvious of surviving on less sleep and no privacy when going to the restroom, these are just a few changes that I came up with and that had me giggling!

I know parenthood is AweMazing but what has changed for you since your kids arrived?

XOXO

The Evolution of Parenting: The Good Old Days

I came across this posting on the Tennessee Valley Facebook Page. I thought it was clever and described how parenting has evolved to what it is today so well that I had to share. Enjoy reminiscing about the good old days:

“CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL BORN IN 1930’s, 1940’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and Early 80’s!!! First, you survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us. They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a tin, and didn’t get tested for diabetes. Then after that trauma, your baby cots were covered with bright-colored lead-based paints. You had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when you rode your bikes, you had no helmets, not to mention, the risks you took hitchhiking.. As children, you would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags. Riding in the back of a van – loose – was always great fun. You drank water from the garden hose pipe and NOT from a bottle. You shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this. You ate cakes, white bread and real butter and drank pop with sugar in it, but you weren’t overweight because…… YOU WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!! You would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach you all day. And you were OK. You would spend hours building your go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out you forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, you learned to solve the problem. You did not have PlayStation, Nintendo’s, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 99 channels on cable, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no mobile phones, no text messaging, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms……….YOU HAD FRIENDS and you went outside and found them! You fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents you played with worms(well most boys did) and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever. You made up games with sticks and tennis balls and although you were told it would happen, you did not poke out any eyes. You rode bikes or walked to a friend’s house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them! Local teams had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! The idea of a parent bailing you out if you broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law! This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever! The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas. You had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and you learned HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL! And YOU are one of them! CONGRATULATIONS! You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good. And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were.” – Tennessee Valley Facebook Page

Who Ever Will Listen

Change of Scenery sometimes works

Hello,

Sorry if today’s blog isn’t informative or have any value to you, but I really just need to vent!!! Today has been a day of all days! My little peanut must STILL be teething (we just got our first 4 teeth last week) or growing or something because all day she has been fussy. I have tried nursing, feeding, playing, reading books, changing her, napping and I get nothing but fussing.  After a while it sure can get tiresome for peanut and me not to mention frustrating.

After hours of playing the guessing game, I finally took her for a walk so that we could both get some fresh air. She seemed to settle down for a while at least.  After some more fussing, I moved her playroom outside. I grabbed a blanket, her books and a few of her favorite toys and set up under a shady tree (see picture below). The change of scenery really helped calm her down so I could at least get dinner done and a bath and bed for peanut. Now time for momma to relax with some yoga followed by a glass of wine, cheers!

Change of Scenery sometimes works

Change of Scenery sometimes works

Thanks for letting me vent about my not so AweMazing day! Tomorrow is a new day and will be better! I will return to normal and provide you with some fun ideas to do with sidewalk chalk!

XOXO

Please and Thank You… Still Magic Words?

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Please and Thank You! Ahhh, the magic words or are they? Nowadays, it seems that these polite words have slipped from some people’s vocabulary. I grew up in a household where if the words weren’t used the answer was always “no”. May I please be excused, can you please pass they water, etc. Any more I hear it less and less from children and even adults.  Is it because everyone is always in a hurry, focused on their smart phone, self absorbed or parents aren’t teaching it any more? What ever the reason, I know we are working to make sure “Please and Thank You” are well known words in our children’s vocabulary.  Here are a few ways we are working to teach the importance of these often forgotten words:

1.)  We are starting early when they aren’t even old enough to talk and don’t understand the real meaning of the words.  We are starting with sign language:

Please Sign Language

Please Sign Language

Thank You Sign Language

Thank You Sign Language

Photos from lifeprint.com

2.)  Much like our parents did for us, our children only get what they are asking for if the “magic words” are used. Let me clarify my children don’t get everything they are asking for just because please was used. If thank you wasn’t used we take it away.

3.)  Lastly and probably most importantly we lead by example. Children are like sponges, they watch and listen to everything we do! My husband and I always make an effort to use please and thank you when we are speaking to each other and the children.

These seem like such simple steps but it’s clear that somewhere along the road they are being skipped! Let’s remind our children that “Please and Thank You are still Magic Words” so they grow up to become AweMazing!

XOXO

Day 11 Ab Challenge

55 Sit-ups

45 Crunches

35 Leg Raises

42s Plank

Yikes, you can do it! Think of those summer abs!